Public safety is (and has always been) a major concern. Moving into 2018 and the future, there are many possible new public safety risks that companies and individuals need to be aware of. Are you aware of all the issues faced by the public today?
Ready to learn more about a handpicked selection of them? Let’s dive right into it!
Glitches in The System
If anything can affect our safety and security in the future, it has to be glitches in the system. From self-driving car bugs, to sports stadium software gone wrong, to police scheduling systems breaking, there are many possible reasons the public might be at risk.
Cybersecurity: Hacks, Data Leaks, & Breaches
Cybersecurity is becoming a hot topic moving into 2018. From giant insurance hacks, government data leaks, to SMB database breaches, none of your information is safe anymore. Who knows what offline effect these cybersecurity breaches could bring directly and indirectly.
Gun control is the hot topic in North America right now. It’s easy to observe that gun violence is statistically rising up the charts. This is an issue that we cannot ignore and requires intervention from diplomats, scholars, politicians and the public before arriving at a conclusion.
Physical violence has always been in existence. With access to guns, and the intense pressures of modern culture and a politically charged climate, criminal violence has to be prevented at all costs. The failure to break up feuds and public rants could cause a huge damage to public property.
Are you a vaper? People who use vaping apparatus can be a nuisance and can cause public turmoil especially when a short-tempered person confronts a vaper. Vapes are known to explode on rare occasions, so in places like crowded stadiums, it’s something that can easily cause threats to public safety.
With Facebook and other mass marketing tools now available to all businesses, the ability to mold the subconscious is becoming more prevalent than ever. Be sure to spread a positive message and have the right security measures in place in case of danger.
Natural disasters only appear to be increasing and getting more severe as global warming continues to affect us all. It’s important that the government takes all the precautionary steps during times of emergency. More importantly, all the right public safety measures have to be in place when you are planning any events or gatherings where a lot of people will be in one place.
That was a quick rundown of a small selection of things that we all should be trying to help fix and eradicate in our lives for ourselves and the public. Check out this infographic titled ‘Safety in Numbers’.
Share this article if you agree and feel free to comment any other risk factors associated with public safety!
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The difference between office and remote jobs is not in the place of work but in the freedom and responsibility. There is no boss who forces you to work and pays the salary at the end of the month. On the contrary, remote workers get paid only for what they actually do. The competition is harsh: there are millions of orders and potential executors so you have to fight for your client.
Three years ago, I left my office job and after a few attempts, I decided to stick to online marketing. Over this period of time, I tried a lot of useful digital tools that helped me to deal with the freelancing duties more efficiently.
In this article, I decided to present you the 10 most productive online tools that can improve the capabilities of any remote worker.
10 Tools to make you a Super-Efficient Remote Worker
It doesn’t matter if you are a copywriter, content manager, blogger, translator, marketer, online teacher, or even a website developer – all these tools can make you better at what you do. Let’s check them out one by one.
Udemy is a global learning and tutoring platform which offers more than 55 thousand courses. It allows you to gain new knowledge from anywhere in the world with expert help from professional instructors. This is extremely practical if you want the opportunity to obtain new freelance occupation and become eligible for more job openings. Using one of Udemy’s courses three years ago, I got acquainted with alternative ways to prepare and implement social media campaigns.
Learning languages while traveling around the world is the best combination to meet different cultures. Duolingo is a digital language learning source that guides you through the basic elements of foreign languages with its friendly user interface and simple functions. I used Duolingo successfully to strengthen my Italian before going to Rome for a few months. It is based on amusing gamification elements and learning through visualization. The navigation is easy and takes you directly to the in-app grammar and vocabulary practices.
Planning and time management play an essential role in the life of every remote worker. In that regards, you can use Trello as the best agile management solution. Using this software, you can manage projects through the card board and get acquainted with each new phase of the working process. Trello is an excellent planning tool. When I started using it, it helped to see the big picture of all important processes in my life and helped me to determine the direction in which I want to grow
Rescue Time is an online tool that improves your everyday habits and makes you more productive in general. I wasn’t even aware of my daily activities and behavior patterns before I started using Rescue Time. It helped me to eliminate distractions such as social networks and other features on my computer. In that regard, Rescue Time monitors your progress over time and you can improve even further once you get used to this way of thinking.
Financial Management Tools:
Remote workers usually can’t keep an eye on their finances easily – or at least I know I can’t. That’s why I suggest you use an app like On the Job, which can assist you in time tracking and invoicing. It makes your personal finances simpler and you won’t struggle with multiple currencies or hourly rates. All you have to do is to set your preferences in On the Job and it will do all of the necessary calculations related to your work.
Recently I had something like five or six different clients at the same time and it was hard to manage all those bills and payments. Invoice Ninja is a high-quality open-source platform with elements like online invoices, payment alerts, due dates, and other valuable features. I must admit that it set me free from everyday accounting work. It doesn’t only make your financial transactions a lot easier but also a lot faster than traditional payment services.
Presentations are one of the basic models of communication for many professionals, especially marketers. 24 Slides is the presentation design tool with all of the essential graphic design elements. The developers of this app created it to avoid seeing boring slides all over the Internet. To be honest, I also exploited many of these standard templates regularly. However, 24 Slides offered me some fresh and creative template solutions, images, and visuals to make presentations much more attractive than usual.
Superior Papers is a group of professionals from various fields of expertise who can help you to create a concept for the presentation and eventually execute the project on their own successfully. From marketing, over finances, all the way to science and IT industry, Best Dissertations offers you a full set of ideas that can make your presentation look perfect. Once I had to deal with the unknown topic of mobile app branding and these guys made sure that I don’t embarrass myself.
Web Development Tools:
Coda is the web development application for macOS. As an amateur in this field, I still managed to handle this tool for coding, testing, and reference, which means that it’s really simple. With its six units, web developers get an efficient text editing tool. Coda allows you to open and handle your files both locally and remotely. It has a simple user interface – a very convenient feature for remote workers who travel a lot.
Espresso is the Mac web editor. It has numerous interesting website development features and gives you the opportunity to get creative at work. You can design and combine various elements, while Espresso makes real-time saves and updates. With this app, it is easy to customize the toolbar and make several changes at once.
Remote work gives you a lot of freedom but also the responsibility to manage your time successfully. In order to get the job done, you often need some kind of help. Fortunately, you can find it in some of many online tools. In this article, I presented you the 10 most fruitful tools that can help you to work and travel at the same time. Give them a try and let me know in the comments which ones you liked the most.
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When people think about brands it’s easy to picture the titans of industry. The Apple’s, Amazon’s, Walmart’s, Coke’s and Google’s of the world are established brands that customers gravitate towards. However, you don’t have to be part of a big-name company to establish a strong personal brand.
In today’s ever more competitive business landscape, it’s even more important to differentiate yourself from your competitors. What can you do to ensure that your customers remember you and that you establish yourself as an expert in your desired industry? In this article, I’ll share a few strategies you can use to do just that.
Starting a blog
This is a strategy I’ve utilized over the past 2 years to build my presence online. From as early as 1994, blogs have been used to spread ideas and create brands online. Although the advent of video streaming services such as YouTube has reduced the effectiveness of blogs, they’re still a great way to refine your writing skills and establish yourself as an expert in your field.
Before starting your blog, it’s important to determine what content you’ll provide. In my case, my content centers around Millennial personal and professional development topics. Defining your niche will help you focus your message so that your target audience can find you and become raving fans.
Now that you’ve determined what you want to write about, it’s time to write your first blog post. Remember to keep your post short and sweet. If your blog post drags on too long, your audience will lose interest. A good rule of thumb is to keep your post under 1500 words.
Once you’ve written your first post, decide where you want to share it. I generally share my content on my personal blog, LinkedIn, Facebook, Medium, and Twitter. The more platforms you share your work, the more exposure you’ll build over time. For more information on how to start your own blog, check out a helpful article I wrote on the subject here.
Writing a book
What’s one thing most famous thought leaders have in common? I’d wager to say that they all have published works that they reference regularly. Although it will require a time commitment, there’s no better way to establish yourself as an expert in your field than by writing a well-researched book on the subject.
The credibility you gain as a published author cannot be understated. I’ve secured speaking opportunities just because an event organizer saw my book online and thought I could provide valuable insights to their audience. For a great reference on how to get started writing your first book, I’ve provided a helpful article I wrote on the subject here.
Now that you have you’re completed book in hand, there are a few ways you can monetarily capitalize on your efforts:
First, you can seek to become a speaker and thought-leader in your industry. If this is the route you’d like to take, start by reaching out to a different conference, convention and meet up organizers to inquire about speaking opportunities. Organizers are constantly looking for speakers to engage their audiences with unique content.
If your area of expertise aligns with the premise of the conference, you may be able to secure a spot to speak at the event. Although your first few speaking engagements will probably be free of charge, these engagements will be the foundation on which you begin building your brand. Eventually, as your notoriety increases and your brand grows, event organizers will seek you out and pay a fee for your speaking services.
Secondly, you can offer coaching services related to your area of expertise. Whether you’re an expert in gardening, fly fishing, coding or anything in between, there are people who want to learn more about your subject of interest. As an example, you may be thinking “How am I ever going to land coaching clients who are interested in learning how to fly fish?”
Well, the best way to reach people who meet these criteria is to share your expertise with them! Frequent fly fishing social media groups and answer the questions being asked. Reach out to fly fishing organizations and see if they’d be willing to let you come speak at their meetings. At the end of your speech, share that you also offer coaching services.
Set up a webinar or write a blog post about a particular aspect of fly fishing, then express how you also provide coaching services. The more you share your ideas and issue your call to action, the more people will take you up on your offer.
Creating a YouTube channel
This is an area I’ve decided to focus more heavily on this year. One of my yearly goals is to grow my YouTube following by posting content regularly. Video content has become an ever more important medium to share ideas.
According to a MediaKix SURVEY, if given the choice between reading an article or watching a movie of the same content, 4 out of 5 millennials say they prefer the digital option. Not only that but the overall decrease of blog traffic in recent years means video is slowly becoming the future of content delivery.
Starting your YouTube journey is relatively simple. You’ll first need to create a YouTube account and set up your cover photo. The cover photo is one of the first things potential new subscribers will see when they arrive on your YouTube channel homepage so it’s important to make a good first impression.
I recommend contracting the logo design out to a reputable designer who knows how to create a logo that will make your channel home screen pop. Next, you’ll want to create a short 1-2-minute video describing what subscribers can expect from your channel. It’s important that your video is filmed in a well-lit room and that the sound quality is excellent.
Once your homepage is ready, it’s time to start creating new video content. Although YouTube stars make it look easy, creating YouTube videos is actually quite the opposite. It took me over 2 hours to record my first YouTube video because I kept messing up in front of the camera. As a result, I filmed over 20 takes before eventually settling on editing various clips to make my final video. I used iMovie on my cell phone to edit my early videos. I plan on investing in editing software this month to ensure that my future videos are of higher visual quality.
Finally, making sure that you post content consistently will help separate you from the pack. Regardless of whether you post daily, weekly or monthly, make sure you get on a consistent schedule. This will help you build momentum and establish a relationship with your target audience. The road to building a far-reaching brand is a long one but can be extremely lucrative if you’re willing to put in the time and effort. What other tips and strategies have you used in the past to build your brand? I’d love to hear from you.
My book recommendation for this article is “Stand Out” by Dorie Clark. In the book, Dorie shares her unique insights on how to grow your personal brand and establish yourself as a thought leader in your industry. I loved the array of stories Dorie shared about successful entrepreneurs who built their brands from scratch. Many of these individuals were able to build large and devout followings utilizing various social mediums including blogs, YouTube, Facebook, LinkedIn etc. I highly recommend the book and have provided the link below:
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“Being on a spiritual path does not prevent you from facing times of darkness; but it teaches you how to use the darkness as a tool to grow.” ~Unknown
Life has not been kind lately.
My aunt passed away in October. She had been suffering from cancer, but her family kept the extent of her illness to themselves, and hence I did not have a chance to see her before she passed away. I felt bad about that.
My father followed her a month later, just after Thanksgiving. He had been ailing from Parkinson’s Disease, but his death as well was not expected when it happened.
Two weeks after him, a friend of mine who lives abroad informed me of her diagnosis with a rare form of incurable cancer. She has since passed away before I had a chance to visit her. She was not yet fifty years old.
Right after that happened, the veterinarian diagnosed my dog with heart failure, and his days too are numbered.
In mid-January, my mother, who had been depressed after my father’s death, collapsed with a seizure. A tumor was discovered in her brain. Though easily removed, it was traced back to her lung. She too has a rare form of aggressive cancer and though outwardly healthy, her life will probably be limited to months or a couple of years.
The whole ordeal until diagnosis unfolded over the course of an extremely stressful month, and the future is both frightening and terribly uncertain. Because of this uncertainty, I have needed to change my life plans—I had been ready to relocate and change jobs.
In the last two weeks, I have had another friend in her forties diagnosed with advanced cancer with a poor prognosis, and my sister’s marriage has come apart.
Every week it seems brings some new tragedy. As just about everyone who knows me has said: “It’s a lot.” It certainly is.
I can’t put a happy face on this. Life has just been awful, and I wake up each day praying for no more bad news. There has been such a procession of misfortune that I feel more numb than anything else.
And yet, I haven’t been destroyed. I’m not depressed. When someone is depressed, whether it's situational or clinical, they often become self-obsessed and turn just about any event, however positive, into a negative commentary on their life. I’ve been there before, and this is not depression.
I’m scared, but I feel strong. I know I can handle this. And, I’m very thankful—thankful for what gave me the strength to endure these times: my spiritual journey.
In 2012, after a years-long series of illnesses, bad romantic relationships, frayed friendships, work drama, and general instability in my life, I had a total breakdown.
By “breakdown” I mean the whole nine yards—massive depression, professional psychological help, medication, and inability to work or even function normally. However, following this breakdown came the clichéd spiritual awakening.
This spiritual awakening taught me so many things, most of which you’ve probably already read about, for example: the ego, the importance of being present, the power of vulnerability, etc.
It was such a fragile period of intense learning and growth built atop a well of deep suffering. It felt terrible, but I learned and changed so much. Though it’s unlikely that I will experience such drastic spiritual growth in such a short period of time again, I realized that I had embarked on a life-long spiritual journey with no end.
Along the way, there have been fewer but no less rewarding “Aha moments” and new realizations made possible by the consciousness I had gained. Furthermore, there have been many spiritual tests, and each time I worry that I will fail to live the lessons I’ve already internalized, I surprise myself and come through.
And now I’ve reached an objectively extraordinarily difficult time. This is not a crisis of egoic drama or hurt feelings but real pain—physical suffering and death for so many people who I care about in a matter of months.
While the spiritual journey is a continuum with multiple themes that are difficult to unravel from each other, there are a few concepts that are sustaining me through it all:
1. Presence and the now
The weight of all of it has pushed me into a very intense NOW. I try not to hope because hope has let me down a lot recently, but perhaps more importantly, hope is focused on an unknowable and largely inalterable future. Though in the context of a lot of terrible events, rarely is there anything wrong with this very moment. Despite the pain of recent events, right now there is so much going right.
Choosing to focus on the good isn’t delusional—it’s an accurate reflection of reality.
My mother is dying. We don’t know when and there isn’t too much we can do, but thinking of that future is enough to ruin every day. And yet, with our time together now so valuable, I have no choice but to be fully present with her as much as I can.
I have experienced so much loss recently, but bitterly clinging to that loss will distract me from the precious time I have left with my mother and friends, and it will do nothing to bring back my dad, my aunt, or anyone else.
However, there isn’t much wrong with right now. My mom isn’t suffering, I’m lucky to be free from work to be with her, and my family has come together in support of each other. The birds sing each morning, the weather is fine, and the forest near our house is beautiful. That’s all real too, and there is much joy to be had in each moment.
Should something arise in the moment, that’s when I’ll deal with it. While I do occasionally find myself worrying over the future, that serves no purpose and only spoils the now.
In times of extreme stress when so many things are going wrong, it is critical to exercise self-care; you cannot be a positive force in the world if you’re falling apart inside.
Boundaries are key to protecting your time and energy, which are particularly challenged in very difficult times, from behaviors that drain them. However, most of the time life is much easier, so we allow people to skate by and “go along to get along” as not to be difficult. After all, we don’t want to seem mean or selfish or unforgiving. We aim to please.
However, while the importance of boundaries is particularly stark in times of crisis, even in normal times they play an important role in self-care and building healthy relationships. This is clear when we see what can happen when we don’t enforce boundaries.
Oftentimes, trying to be nice and agreeable, we allow someone to repeatedly cross the line with no repercussions. As our resentment builds, we may act out in retaliation, doing nothing helpful for ourselves or the world.
A relationship of true intimacy and mutual respect should be able to easily withstand one party making his or her boundaries clear. If the other can’t handle that, then how deep of relationship is it anyway? In fact, establishing a level of trust with someone to feel comfortable enough to discuss boundaries is in itself a sign of a strong relationship.
Enforcing boundaries involves a level of honesty that can deepen relationships.
During my mother’s time in the hospital, frustrated with being confined to bed, she unleashed a stream of vitriol at me that were without a doubt the most hurtful words anyone has ever said to me.
As difficult as it was to do with her health in such a fragile state, I felt I had no choice; I had to enforce my boundaries. If I am to be her primary caregiver, I couldn’t endure a situation in which she directs her frustrations at me—it wouldn’t work for me, and it wouldn’t work for her. Unfortunately, it was a repeated behavior of hers over many years.
Without getting into the details, we had a very frank discussion about this, and to be fair, it’s something I let her get away with for a long time by not enforcing my boundaries.
While initially very painful, this talk led to me sharing deep dark memories and thoughts I never would have otherwise said and clearing a lot of what stood in the way of our relationship as mother and son. That very likely would not have happened had I not stood firm, and I never would have established that open a relationship with her. However long she has left in this world, I know that this issue, my past hurt from her actions, won’t stand between us again.
3. Having an open mind
When faced with a diagnosis as dire as what my mom was given, unless you completely give up, keeping an open mind is often the only way to find good news that you would have otherwise overlooked.
For example, in beginning my research on this type of cancer, I was dismayed to learn that there has been no material change to the standard of care in about forty years. All of those recent breakthroughs in cancer treatment you’ve heard about, they don’t apply to this one!
However, rather than declaring defeat right away, I did decide to dig a little deeper. What I found was that there actually are a lot of clinical trials going on in our area for this type of cancer, many of which may provide a good second-line treatment option. Moreover, one of the trial drugs is very likely to get FDA approval in the next year, giving us some options where before there was none. Taking advantage of these would require changing hospitals, so these are developments I never would have learned about had I given up.
I’ve been reminded to keep an open mind about people too. My mother, typically pretty volatile, has faced this all with amazing strength and equanimity—certainly more than I’ve shown! For someone totally uninterested in spirituality, she shown a remarkable perspective on all of this in the context of her life, with which she is very satisfied.
My sister, also going through marital problems while taking care of her baby and usually very emotional, has coped perhaps the best of any of us and has exhibited some very healthy habits for staying even. My brother, on the other hand, himself a doctor, has probably been the most scattered and emotionally crippled by the recent events.
The point is that whatever you think you know about a person, it can change any day, any time. People can surprise you, for better or worse. While it’s totally rational to make judgment calls about peoples’ strengths and weaknesses, abilities and attributes, you must always realize that you can be wrong, or that the person might change—in fact, people are changing all of time!
Spirituality is not about finding a happy hiding place insulated from temporal concerns. It’s quite the opposite—it’s about moving through life with eyes and arms wide open to whatever happens. It’s the way we get down in the mud and go through the wringer and remain who we are.
Spirituality is a muscle. It gets stronger with exercise, and exercise causes discomfort. But once recuperated, you find you’re able to lift even more weight than before.
I’ve never had to deal with such a painful series of events, and hopefully I never will again. But however insignificant what I’ve already been through seems in comparison, that past started me on a spiritual journey that prepared me for this present time. Whatever happens, I know I’ll emerge stronger from this too.
About Joshua Kauffman
Joshua Kauffman is a recovering over-achiever and workaholic. Leaving behind a high-powered life in business, he has become a world traveler, aspiring coach, and entrepreneur of pretty things. Amateur author of a recent memoir Footprints Through The Desert, he is trying to find ways to share his awakening experience, particularly to those lost in the rat race like he was.
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Coworkers, emails, phone calls, customers or clients…. The amount of things that can distract us from our responsibilities in a work day is enormous. Normally, we don’t resist these distractions and we end up switching over to them because want to.
This kind of multi-tasking kills our ability to be productive.
Scientific studies have shown that we lose 40% of our time due to switching between tasks. That means that we’re losing 16 hours of our work week by multitasking alone.
The #1 offender that gets us off track?
Mobile phones in the workplace.
Why are mobile phones so good at getting us off track?
There’s actually a simple explanation and it has to do with the way our brains work.
It’s called the Triune Brain Theory.
If you’ve never heard of the Triune Brain Theory, here’s the short version:
The Triune Brain Theory is a model for how the brain works as proposed by Dr. Paul MacLean. Our brain is actually made up of three brains which evolved on top of each other: the physical brain, the emotional brain, and the thinking brain.
The physical brain controls all of our physical needs such as safety and security, hunger, sex, and shelter. The emotional brain controls all of our emotions and emotional needs such as happiness, sadness, relationship, and connection with others. The thinking brain controls all of our complex thinking skills such as language, abstract thought, and planning.
The strongest is the physical brain, followed by the emotional brain, then by the thinking brain. These brains all want different things and have their own unique ways to get them.
In order to get rid of distractions, we have to learn to manage our physical brain.
The physical brain loves immediate, physical gratification and wants it ALL the time. It also pulls our emotional brain in to help it in this task. When it fails to get its needs, it dumps us with negative emotions.
For example, our physical brain loves looking at our phone. Scientists discovered that when we look at our phones, we get a hit of dopamine: the chemical that makes us happy.
In this article, researchers connected electrodes to Anderson Cooper from CNN and measured his heart rate and perspiration. When he couldn’t check his phone every time a notification alert occurred, he showed the same withdrawal symptoms that you see from an addict.
In order to overcome this addiction and take your productivity back, you have to put your phone in a place where it’s accessible if you really need it, but not so easily accessible that you’ll reach for it in the case of a distraction.
My recommendation is a lock with a timer.
With this, you can lock your phone away for a set time and work uninterrupted.
Try this: Get a small box that can be used with a lock. Get your timed lock and set the time length for 45 minutes and work. Make sure your phone is on silent and vibration is turned off.
When you get your phone back, go nuts for 15 minutes. Be as impulsive as you want. Get on Facebook, start reading the news, start scrolling through Instagram or text/call your friends. Doing this will get rid of the biggest work distraction out there and allow you to focus and work uninterrupted.
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Link-building strategies form, without a doubt, the backbone of any successful SEO and organic reach. But in the complexity of choosing the best methods, how do we know which ones work best?
In this article, we have chosen 10 of the most effective link-building strategies that can actually improve your site’s ranking and conversion.
You don’t have to reinvent the wheel when it comes down to content creation. Find something that already ranks high in your industry and find low competition keywords on Google.
2. Make something better
Look at the top ranking content and make yours better by adding up to it. Set new standards by improving existing content with more relevant and up to date information.
3. Reach out to the right people
Spread the word about your content but make sure you approach the right people in the right way. Reach out to people who have already linked similar but older content. Refer to that specific link as your inspiration. Don’t be “pushy” and give them the idea that your content might be an interesting update.
Moving man link-building strategy
The essence of this strategy is to find resources in your industry which have shut down, moved URLs, are no longer active, have gone out of business or rebranded. Reach out to sites linking those resources.
Add links that send your audience to your competitors
Yes, you read that right.
Should you link out to your competitors? Absolutely.
By linking out to similar pages as yours, it does not specifically shift your audience to that website. On the contrary, it actually builds trust and liability to your website and creates loyalty among visitors.
This is because you understand the meaning of quality and go to great lengths to provide it. The other great part is that Google detects the topics of your content, which can improve your site’s ranking.
Infographic link-building strategy
This will be a treat to those of more creative ideas.
It is no secret that visual aids are more appealing than long, complex or boring articles. This is why infographics are not rare among websites. They are a lot better than custom-made or animated graphics in terms of attracting more traffic to your site.
Don’t roll your eyes yet.
We live in a world where ‘real time’ experiences and virtual relationships have become a reality. Subconsciously, we tend to prefer the advice of an influencer over infomercials and commercials because they are relatable and familiar.
To use this strategy, here is what you have to do:
HARO (Help A Reporter Out)
Easy, effective, and evolving.
Here is how to make the best use of HARO:
Step 1: Sign up to HARO (search for the homepage by the full name).
Step 2: Look out for emails from HARO. You should be receiving 3 mails per day. Check the keywords (they might include your niche).
Step 3: Don’t wait and respond directly with some creative ideas/tips and add your credentials and links.
Expert roundups will include your link into a list of ‘best of ’ from bloggers writing about your niche. Here is how to utilize this strategy:
1. Find expert roundups in your area by searching ’your keyword’ + best of/’your keyword’ + roundup etc.
2. Reach out to the person doing the roundup by writing an email and asking to include links to your content or adding your answer as well.
3. Make sure you compliment them on their work and mention you would be privileged to be included in a roundup.
The poster boy method
Share your experience by writing an incredible success story using a tool or a product of the industry you’re interested in. Flattering a company is one thing but a positive, legit testimonial is something that every company looks for and can benefit both them and you.
Create a post that is undoubtedly inspiring and share it with the company. They might include your story on their pages, press releases, and even interview you for their page.
Create video tutorials
Branded, high quality, and great content videos work time and time again. They tend to send traffic your way long after you have published them and generate views every day.
Create a free tool/give away a free product
Our final strategy includes giving a tool for free. Who doesn’t like free stuff?
A while ago, we did exactly that. We created a free backlink checker and now it’s one of the most linked content: All you have to do is make sure the product/tool is:
We hope these link building strategies made it to your list. Test them and share your experience with other people aspiring to rank high in Google.
“I'd rather be honest and authentic and disappoint some people than to exhaust myself trying to keep up the façade of perfection.” ~Crystal Paine
So many people walk around each day masking their true feelings because they are considered the “strong one,” “the upbeat, bubbly one,” or, since they give so much of themselves supporting others, they’re not seen as having any emotions other than happy. If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it together all the time to keep up a façade for others, there’s freedom in letting people know you have feelings too.
Keeping it together has always been my thing. You know the phrase “never let’em see you sweat”? Well, even in my worst moments, I would keep it all in place and poised for the public, but I’d be secretly dying on the inside, because of the pain or challenges I was going through.
It can catch some people off guard to see you be real, revealing that you don’t have it all together, and at times their responses can leave you wounded. I know that feeling all too well.
A few months back, I attended an event to support a colleague and I bumped into someone I knew well. He asked me how I was doing, and I responded honestly with “I'm hanging in there, but I'm fine.”
He immediately made a face and seemed disturbed by my response. He said, “Woooooo, you gotta change that. You sound too defeated and that's not what I want to hear from you.”
He went on to say, “What you said makes me want to back away from you, and go the opposite direction. It’s too much for me. You must always answer with a positive response.” He then went on to provide ways for me to respond in the near future.
What this person didn’t know was, I was feeling down and discouraged because I felt I wasn’t as far as I should be in my life and business.
I had poured all of myself into doing things to get the business running consistently; however, whenever I looked at all the effort I put in and saw things not happening as quickly as I thought they should, I felt as if I’d failed. So, it was a tough time as I sorted through those different emotions.
At first, I felt lousy about my response, because with me being considered the “upbeat, strong one,” always smiling and helping others to feel better, there is an assumption of how I should be at all times. I thought I had somehow let that person down by revealing my true feelings in that moment. I also felt embarrassed, because I’d exposed a small part of myself and felt like I was rejected and told how I should sound.
But after I thought about it, I realized I was fine with my response because it was a genuine answer. I am on a path of making true connections with others and I no longer want to “act” and pretend to be fine when I’m not.
While this person didn't have any ill intent and actually thought they were being helpful in telling me how I should respond, it clearly made it uncomfortable for me to open up to them the next time around.
It made me think about why some people try to force others to hide behind a mask. Why do people expect you to always be “on”?
This was a moment for the other person to find out what was truly going on with me, to find out why I seemed so down and to make a true connection, instead of offering me another mask to wear in their presence.
This led me to wonder, when we ask people who we know “How are you doing?” are we really open to an honest response or are we looking to hear the template response we so often hear, “I'm fine”?
I also thought about how many people wear a mask every day or keep a façade to avoid showing their humanity and potentially making others feel uncomfortable. The people we interact with every day are carrying worries, concerns, and emotional pain within, and we cannot ask them to put on a fake smiley face and tell them to be on their way. These people need someone to truly see them.
If you sometimes hide your true feeling behind a mask, here are a few ways to begin opening up.
Practice honestly connecting with people, even if you start small.
As psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith wrote, “When you open your mouth, you're also opening your heart. And knowing that someone truly hears what you are feeling and understands you is soothing to the soul.”
If you’re not accustomed to opening your heart to people, start small by sharing one thing you’re thinking or feeling but may be tempted to keep inside. Opening up to others will allow you the space to be yourself, and from there you’ll clearly see who’s willing to receive what you have to say with an open heart. You’ll also begin to forge deeper relationships through your honest connections.
Also, be the person who allows others the space to just be, and can offer support and guidance as needed. Ask about their lives, and let them know you’re happy to be a nonjudgmental ear. Giving people room to share pieces of themselves lets them know you’re there for them and they can be honest with you.
Allow yourself space to feel.
Many times when we avoid sharing our feelings with others, it’s because we haven’t given ourselves space to identify and process our emotions. We try to cover them up or engage in activities to mask the pain, but they don’t go away when we do this. Left unprocessed, our feelings tend to leak out in other ways. For example, we may overreact in unrelated situations.
Give yourself permission to feel whatever you feel, without judgment, and learn to recognize when you’re lying to yourself, telling yourself you’re “fine” when you’re not. The first step to being honest with others is being honest with yourself.
Be kind to yourself.
We tend to beat ourselves up when we do not respond, act, speak, or think how others believe we should. This can put pressure on us to shift to meet everyone else's needs without truly acknowledging our own.
Get in the habit of checking in with yourself and meeting your emotional needs, whether that means processing your feelings in a journal and practicing self-care. The more you respect your truth and your needs, the better you’ll be able to communicate them to others.
It’s a heavy burden to hide behind a façade or wear a mask. Allow yourself to experience the freedom of being authentic in each moment and making genuine connections with people who can receive your feelings.
There’s power in putting down your super hero cape, being vulnerable, and sharing your truth. You don’t have to hide, pretend, or feel bad about not always being the “strong one.” You’re not weak, you’re human, and you never have to apologize for that.
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“Love yourself like your life depends on it. Because it does.” ~Danielle LaPorte
Thank you website impersonator. I appreciate you. In fact, you may be one of my best teachers.
Most people wouldn’t normally think of extending gratitude for someone who steals your words, impersonates your personal story, and uses your images online. Neither did I when I realized that an anonymous source had lifted not just my blog posts, but images of my daughter and specific characteristics of my life on their website.
Truth be told, I was outraged. This took intent. This took more than just a simple action of copying and pasting a few blog posts.
I’d only discovered this copycat website by chance. After a month of ignoring what I assumed were marketing emails from my website hosting company, I stopped long enough to pay attention.
Hadn’t I shut down this website a year ago? Indeed. I had allowed an old blog to go dark without ever realizing that the day after my site went offline, another was born—with not just the same URL, but an author who presented herself with my first name, my past career, and my medical history. The resemblance was remarkable.
Once the outrage simmered to a low boil, I went into action mode. Google and Facebook became my teachers for cease and desist language and the protocol for a digital takedown. But the more effort I put into wanting to “fight,” I also felt resistance.
Does it really matter? The pirated site was about to expire anyway—was this really what I wanted to put my energy into? Wouldn’t it take away from my real work? My soul’s purpose? I wondered if maybe this was an invitation to practice acceptance and compassion. Could I just let this go and release the grip on my story?
The more I struggled with how to feel and what to think, the more detached I became. The more others around me took up the fight, with rage-y anger and thoughts of legal action, the more I retreated into a chorus of “I don’t have the energy for this.”
It felt too overwhelming. Too daunting. Just too much.
I didn’t know much that day, but I knew I needed to get myself to a yin yoga class.
And then it hit me. Or rather, the importance of this lesson found me.
There I was, supporting myself with elbows pressing into my mat in sphinx pose. Our teacher invited us to allow our bellies to soften toward the earth. At once, it was as if all of the emotions that I’d been trying to resist were leaking out of me. I couldn’t have stopped the tears from flowing if I tried. Drip after drip, the feelings started to spill out. And as they did, I heard a voice from within.
It does matter. It is important. It is worth your energy. You do matter. You are important. You are worth your energy.
It wasn’t just about the website page that used my first name and life story anymore. I started to feel the flashes of the past move through me.
The moment that I told myself that my (ex) fiancé cheating on me and leaving me right before my bone marrow transplant was okay because we’d be handed circumstances that we could never have envisioned at a young age.
The time that I divorced my first husband and made peace with mediation and his wishes because it would just be better for my young daughter if I made things easy.
Decades of never correcting people when they mispronounced my first name, because really….”I answer to anything.”
It was as if I was looking at the lifetime of “it doesn’t matter” moments in a mirror, each one, burying my own self-worth even deeper into the ground.
These two simple words, layered with so much emotion, burst out of my heart through the tears.
Of all the moments in my life, it took a website impersonator to help me decide that I matter. That I am worth it.
Perhaps I hadn’t been ready before to find this sense of devotion to my worth. Perhaps the challenges and obstacles of my past were all part of the training that I needed to tend to my wholeness.
How many times had I relied on the theory that I should pick my battles? Not standing up for what was important because, in the big scheme of things, it wasn’t that big of a deal.
I’m a mom of a teenager, so picking my battles is par for the course. And I believe that there are, indeed, something things that are better released than forced. But at what point does each decision actually chip away at our own self-worth? How can we be compassionate and empathetic beings while still honoring our worthiness and value?
At what point do we decide that our hearts are sacred altars that need tending?
The good news is that a simple and not very legal sounding email did the trick to entice the anonymous website owner to take down images and stories that were mine. And I’m thankful for that. But I’m even more grateful for this gut-punching nudge because the days of self-deprecating not-a-big-deal moments are over. They have to be.
So many of us wrangle with the beast of mattering and worthiness. I’d even believed that I’d tamed it in the past, but in fact, the thread of stories of making things easier for others or feeling like it would be better to blend into the background was sturdier than I thought.
It is in these moments of challenge or contrast that we have a choice. To stand up for our self-worth. For our voices. For our stories. To make the decision to finally stand tall in the belief that you matter.
The stories from our past are always going to be there. Some might invite you to consider who you might be without your story. I’ve tried that approach. And while I believe that our stories do not define us, I do believe that those stories are parts of our whole.
The practice of deciding to matter doesn’t grow when you ignore the stories, but when you step into awareness to see yourself fully in the mirror and decide to love and value your reflection.
What will it take for you to decide that you matter? Imagine for a moment that you could see yourself standing in your own inner garden of self-worth. What would that look like? Feel like? Can you give yourself permission to tend to that strength, those roots, that feeling of value?
About Elena Sonnino
Elena Sonnino is a life coach and speaker. She guides women who struggle with not-enoughness to see themselves with curiosity, vulnerability, and self-love. Her superpower is to be the mirror that helps you tap into your inner guidance and light up your own world. Learn more about Elena’s work and download a free guided meditation to tend to your inner garden.
Karen felt hopeful when she and her ex-boyfriend initially got back together. After a stormy breakup and a painful month apart, they gradually began to communicate with one another. It was healing for her to be able to finally get all that was unsaid out into the open.
For the first time in a very long while, Karen felt listened to. It also seemed that her boyfriend was open, honest, and that they were figuring things out.
Now that they’ve settled as a couple again, her hopes and positive attitude about the future of her relationship are fading. While a few of the agreements that Karen and her boyfriend made to bolster trust and healthy communication have continued, many of their old and disconnecting habits have resurfaced.
It’s starting to feel like “business as usual” and Karen doesn’t like that at all. She’s beginning to wonder if getting back together was a big mistake.
Reuniting with your ex can be a joyous time, but it can also bring with it doubts, fears, and more of the same dynamics that tore you apart in the past.
The Extra Baggage
We all bring emotional baggage to our relationships.
When your emotional baggage is from your past relationship with your current partner, things can get confusing. Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself reacting to your partner in a more intense way because of something that happened long ago and before you broke up.
Aside from these expectations and the baggage from the past, there is a good possibility that you and your partner will fall into habitual patterns. Humans tend to do what we’re most accustomed to doing– this happens in relationships, too.
When we get triggered, tense or tired, we revert back to those habits that we know so well- even those that have not been in our (or our relationship’s) best interests in the past.
Before you consider a reunion, here are the best tips on how to successfully get back together after a break-up.
Identify what makes you two apart
At first glance, it might seem obvious to you that your partner’s dishonesty, inability to communicate, blocks to intimacy, flirting, and jealousy are what’s ripping you two apart again.
It’s best if you take a deeper and broader look. It’s probably your partner’s or your habits that are causing the problem. However, there’s most likely a lot more going on, too.
Set an intention to be an observer and not a critic. Then, pay closer attention to how you and your partner interact on a day-to-day basis and when stressful or triggering situations arise.
Notice what happens to communication, intimacy, trust, and more. Think about what happens when your partner appears to have closed down to you.
For the moment, try to understand the dynamics between the two of you. Your goal is to figure out what leads you to move further away from one another so that you can make some changes.
Own your share of the disconnecting habits
Once you have a clearer and broader picture of what’s potentially taking you and your partner away from one another, take responsibility.
Let’s be clear here.
We’re NOT encouraging you to take the blame or to let your partner “off the hook.” This won’t help your relationship. What you have the most control over is what YOU think, say, and do. That’s why this is such a powerful place for insight and action.
Be the observer for a little while longer and notice how you’re contributing to the problems in your relationship. You may not be the one starting the arguments but you’re probably making things more heated.
Stepping back and watching your own behaviors can be transformational to you and to your relationship.
Stay focused on what you DO want
This is a time to clear up your past and let it go. Holding onto resentments and allowing unresolved conflicts to build is only going to hurt your relationship in the long run. Do what you need to do to be more present and aware of your relationship.
Be honest with yourself. If it has become apparent that staying together is unwise and that it would be better for you and your partner to end your relationship and remain apart, honor that.
But if you and your mate are truly willing to do what it takes to create the kind of relationship you both want and you see signs that changes are happening, here’s what we urge you to do…
Make sure you are orienting yourselves toward what you DO want.
Instead of hiding the truth, make a genuine promise to speak honestly and openly and do it.
Rather than telling one another that you will stop yelling and arguing, set up some “ground rules” that are reasonable for how you WILL communicate respectfully as you resolve conflicts. Then, put them into practice.
This kind of a shift in perspective can be subtle, but the effects make a big difference.
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“Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.” ~Lisa M. Hayes
For as long as I can remember, I’ve always had a laser-sharp focus on achieving “success.” From the outside, it looks like I’m pretty close to it, too. But on the inside, I wasn’t allowing myself to acknowledge any of it.
I never gave myself the chance to feel like I was doing something right. I started to think that the only way to ensure I keep growing, improving, and achieving was to stop allowing myself to experience the little victories completely. Satisfaction became a dangerous word.
My self-talk turned into “Okay, that was decent, but you can do better…” or “Alright, that's over, and you need to focus on this now…”
I was giving myself no time to congratulate myself or realize my competence, and this mindset was draining.
In his book The Charge, Brendon Burchard wrote “if we don’t recognize what we’ve accomplished in life—even the small things—then we never feel accomplished.”
I can confirm this from personal experience.
When I was sixteen, I won a national track race in the 800m. When I look back at it, I realize how incredible of an accomplishment that was, and I’m proud of myself. But, in that moment, when I crossed the finish line first, I didn’t feel that amazing feeling of success that I had dreamed of. Don’t get me wrong, I was fully aware of what I had just done and how impressive it was, but the spark wasn’t there.
And that’s because I had dulled it. I hadn’t allowed it to have a voice, so it stopped talking. Instead, the voice that I was given all the power to was my inner critic, and she definitely was not helping.
Not only was my inner critic present when I was achieving great things, but she practically took over when life was going downhill. After my successful track season, I was determined to reach my wildest goals and dreams in the next one. However, my perfectly defined plan got destroyed when I experienced my first real injury.
One week of disappointment turned into six weeks of agony. I couldn’t run, and I felt myself getting more and more out of shape every day. I was panicking, and my happiness disintegrated.
But I don’t even think that was the hardest part. I was severely mentally tested when I finally did get to train again.
I was so behind, and I was getting my butt kicked in every workout. My previous joy of crushing workouts was now replaced with merely trying to survive. I quickly realized that I couldn’t place my happiness in reaching goal times and slaying 400 repeats—I had to find something else to fuel my fire.
And I found it in gratefulness.
Instead of worrying about embarrassing myself in the next workout, I focused on this: I’m grateful I’m healthy, I’m grateful I get to do it, and I’m grateful that I get to experience the beautiful burn of getting in better shape.
Screw the outcome; I’m grateful for the process.
I wish I could say that I had an awesome track season, but I didn’t. I felt like I was getting thrown on the ground, kicked in the head, allowed to get back up, and then thrown down again.
I went back to the national meet and didn’t place anywhere close to where I had the previous year, got beat by people I knew I should’ve beaten, and got rejected from multiple colleges I was hoping to run at.
But, throughout this dark time, I found something that I had previously covered up and thrown in a dusty corner of my brain: my inner cheerleader.
Yes, I got beat badly at the national meet, but I ran with guts. Yes, my body was not in peak fitness, but I believed I would eventually get there. My inner cheerleader started to experience greater strength as I allowed myself to remember my little victories, and as she came to power, my inner critic began to weaken.
When it came time to prepare for track again, I decided that things were going to be different. I was done being stressed, worried, nervous, unhappy… I was going to run because I loved to run.
The focus was on gratitude. Yes, I was going to go for my goal times in workouts, but if I worked hard and didn’t hit them, it was okay. I was grateful I got to run.
Yes, I was going to put lots of emphasis on getting an adequate amount of sleep, but if I had to stay up later one night to finish a paper, I wasn’t going to beat myself up. I was grateful that I had the work ethic and motivation to do my paper.
In his book How Bad Do You Want It? Mark Fitzgerald wrote “‘Gratitude’ is about letting go of desired outcomes and fully embracing the privilege and process of pursuing goals and dreams.”
This mindset has not only helped me to regain that spark I had been missing, but it’s given me better results. I record all my workouts in a training journal, and ten times out of ten, my best workouts come from the ones when I am grateful and focused on the process, and not trying to force myself to hit certain times.
Even though I’ve made leaps and bounds, it’s a battle every day. And that’s okay, because all worthwhile things require a battle. When I do crush a workout, I find myself wanting to return back to my super-intense, outcome-focused, controlling mindset.
And sometimes I slip up and get consumed by my inner critic, but I always come back to my inner cheerleader once I realize I’m sucking all the fun out of my life. It’s an ongoing process, but it is one that I’m willing and excited to go through.
Turning off your inner critic can help everyone; if you want to succeed in life, giving power to your inner cheerleader will send you in the right direction. Here are three ways to get started:
1. Take out a piece of paper and a pen. Start writing down all the awesome things you have done in the past five years.
Make sure you include even the smallest, seemingly trivial accomplishments. Give yourself at least five to ten minutes to do this (more if you want!) and once time is up, read it over. Use this to remind yourself that you are capable, competent, and amazing.
2. Know that you have power to choose your own conscious thoughts.
We all fall prey to negative thoughts, but at the same time, we all have the choice of how much strength we are going to give them. Your inner critic will continuously try to show up, but let the words pass by without given them any weight or importance, and replace it with something from your inner cheerleader. It’s not a forced shunning of your inner critic, but instead, lack of response to it.
3. Laugh more.
I interviewed a man who ran 100-mile races, and his suggestion for dealing with negative thoughts was “laugh them off as soon as they pop into your head.” Don’t stress about everything, instead, finding it funny that you are even stressing about it.
As a final thought, life is meant to be enjoyed. It’s a gift. Stop worrying about being perfect, doing everything right, and achieving “success,” and start living. When you focus on the journey, life is so much more beautiful, and it will allow you to appreciate the victories so much more. And I promise you, you’re going to have victories. So, smile, because the future is bright.
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